Giving safe compliments

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type or skin

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color

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or maybe even eye color but if you say

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those glasses they're really nice that's

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a very different compliment from oh you

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have beautiful eyes right um or i really

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love the way you've done your hair

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um that can be a bit

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um

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but yeah i'd say generally something

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that someone has clearly personalized

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about themselves and they've made a

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conscious effort for

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what is too far like what would you

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never sort of bring up a small talk i'll

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probably i'm sorry go on sorry i

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probably wouldn't ask too much i'll

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probably um

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just keep it like to the minimum i

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wouldn't i would say maybe things like

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you don't know what's going on with

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people's past i probably wouldn't ask

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anything about family in case of

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relatives recently died or like maybe

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they don't even have family and so i'll

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probably just keep it to like basic you

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know conversation something along the

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lines of like yeah the weather maybe the

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situation but have a little bit of you

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know maybe a little bit of banter but

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not too much because it might offend

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someone you obviously don't know what's

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going on in their life so you keep it

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outside of the realm of personality or

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character yes or say if like they've got

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pink hair i might say like you've got

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very cool pink hair okay so or like a

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nice denim jacket might ask where

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they've got the denim jacket from and

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that's probably about it

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because i don't want to