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we work together a lot and we fell in

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love at work he was actually the first

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person I met when I moved to New York

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well it was a bit strange actually

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there's a guy who lived down the road

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from me short version honey I saw your

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face I was like a really pretty Eastern

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European girl probably a bot um but I

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thought I'll try it anyway I'd ask for

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the same exact coffee every Friday

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really and at some point I thought I

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should stop being weird and I should

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actually come up and say hello you need

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Brey you know when you you have to rooll

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to a girl yeah so Al help me yeah when

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you are surrounded with rescued bats and

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having a great sunrise and sunset it's

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kind of where to go you're very very

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lovely and very funny and very vivacious

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and you're Irish I'm Irish like which

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really helps after our first date we

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kind of like we're together yeah from

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that moment feel like she's like very

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nice like outlook on the world World um

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just like your disposition on things I

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think that's what initially attracted me

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to her and also continues

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to I I've I've been way more honest with

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you than I've ever been with somebody

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and what he say to was it happy wife

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happy life it that's it very good yeah

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it's hard sometimes but I'm still here

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yeah still still with

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you two meet

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in the pub we met um in the basement of

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a pub go my love tell them um we met at

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drama school Lea's from Ukraine and I'm

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from Brighton so the chances were quite

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slim I think but we didn't date right

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away we were friends for like 3 years or

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so and we were each in relationships and

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then we ended up together eventually

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when the time was right yeah so we

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basically met at work we are working for

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an animal wealth organization in Vienna

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where we met on Tinder oh really yeah

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yeah could you tell us how you two both

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met yeah right singles club we actually

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met at the gym that we both go to

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because she works at the gym okay I'm

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I'm a barer at the gym and I would

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always go up and I'd ask for the same

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exact coffee every Friday really and at

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some point I thought I should stop being

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weird and I should actually come up and

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say hello I moved to London uh a year

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and a half ago so when the war started

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um I first went to America and then went

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to

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London and I decided in two weeks later

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I decided it was a good idea to download

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Tinder I was living in Leon and he was

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living 50 kilomet away in France from

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Leon in the south in the countryside

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yeah he was passing truly on and with

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his phone on Tinder and then then he

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wrote to me a few days later and I W I

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owned a pub and umy walked in yeah and

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uh that was it really and I I moved to

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the back of the pub so there's a road

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behind the pub but you could walk

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through from one side of the street

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through the back Pub garden and then my

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cat kept going in there we got together

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like a month after we started so I had a

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week where I wasn't really

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sure and

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then and then I was like actually yeah

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yeah an animal welfare s Sanctuary

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organization org we have sanctuaries

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where we actually fell in love where we

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actually in South Africa actually we

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went we went on a trip to South Africa

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to a h big cat sanctuary um and we sort

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of fell in love there all I had on my

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page was remember your interest no bio

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just like three pictures one of which

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wasn't even your face well you had your

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one the door already yeah and it was

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like interest wine Jazz vinyl I was Miss

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you were a mystery and that's what

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attracted you was there oh no I saw you

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thought I saw your face I was like oh

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really pretty e European girl probably a

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bot um but I thought I'll try it anyway

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yeah um and then you you you you sent me

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a message first and we do it on purpose

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we always in coffee there because she

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w't there well I always knew she was on

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Fridays and I would always come in the

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same time and it would be quite nice to

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say hello very good and then I just

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started talking to her because I was

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like you know you know so you made the

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first move no I did I did she actually

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um yeah she kind of got tired of waiting

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that's true so she kind of just asked me

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for my phone and I was like okay all

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right and and then she messaged me and I

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was like okay well do you want to go out

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and uh I kept getting a phone call so

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your cat's up at the bar again can you

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get your cat out but in the end he just

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become a bit of a

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fixture two days or 3 days later he

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wrote to me he wrot was with his friends

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drinking a little bit and one of his

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friend wrote to me and then I well late

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night night on Thursday and on next

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morning when I woke up I had a message

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from him so I repli in Brey you know

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when you you have to wrote to a girl so

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Al call help me I went to see uh you

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perform and do a gig because I'm yeah

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I'm a singer composer and yeah um it was

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a very long date like it started at like

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midday and then I left at

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about 8 the next morning yeah we took we

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took the dog for a walk like it was it

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was

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now back to the episode what would you

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say is each other's best quality or most

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attractive quality I

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guess you have two um I can't pick one

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one is

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how determined and strong you are there

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are other words that you could call it

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like being stubborn or you know you can

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it it appears in like many

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different guyses but ultimately you are

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a really really strong motivated person

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who will do anything you want thank you

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and then the flip side to that is that

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um you're also

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incredibly um flexible and changeable

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you can adapt to any environment and you

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do it so well and that takes a lot of

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vulnerability and softness thank you

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yeah but it wasn't like that

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before stuff before hot stuff in my life

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yeah I went for the blue eyes took me

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straight away okay and you well just

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Jennifer oh he's really nice uh he's got

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patience and he's very

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laidback whereas I'm not an i white

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trait yeah and when he talks a lot makes

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up for both of

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us generous you're very generous I'd say

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she's very wholesome wholesome she's

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very like calming like can if I have

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like a little temper she can you know I

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can relax wholesome and calming that's

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good that's nice as said feel like she's

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like very nice like outlook on the

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world um just like your disposition on

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things I think that's what initially

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attracted me to her and also continues

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to Tom is I think the most caring person

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that I ever met um yeah always makes

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sure that everyone feels very

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comfortable so yeah most caring

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person uh Lisa gives me so much

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confidence and so like she makes me

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stand really tall and proud and that's

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that's so nice I struggled with that

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before and Lisa really help me up to to

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do that Andy is very kind and he takes

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excellent care of

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me uh yes you're very forgiving should I

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say I'm yeah uh but you are you are very

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nice and you do you or even though you

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don't think it you're very caring and

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you look after people and look out for

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people as well and that's really nice we

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complement each other very well yeah I

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don't know we've

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had so I could I could like

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stomach um you're very very lovely and

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very funny and very vivacious and you're

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Irish like was really help yeah um I

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would oh you're ready F yeah yeah this

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is thing I would um probably

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say uh I'd never met anybody who

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surprised me more and more like all the

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time in the sense I was always like I

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don't know what's next and you made me

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feel very happy and she there they're

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super hot I

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mean's uh she's de

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determinated so this is good quality

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yeah I think that he's patient because

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sometimes I'm too in a rush or yeah like

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yeah I want things to go my way and fast

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and sometimes I have a I explode a

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little bit and he is calmer because of

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his job I kind of like the fact that uh

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you never like settle um and he's very

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like go driven like an ambitious and he

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lik to dream and I feel like that's

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really cool cuz I feel like you'll never

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really be complacent in life and then

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you'll always try to like stve for

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something else yeah somehow you know how

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to find a way to any person uh you have

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this

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magical I don't know give me a word

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ability to just make people fall in love

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with you am I saying it right you are I

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mean not in not only in like um romantic

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way not saying that but in professional

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and you could be inspiring and I think

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it's amazing that you can you have that

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light that

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can um bring people together and you can

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do very very cool um stuff and help

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people that's what you actually do oh

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that's really nice

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nice what if any um advice would you

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give to people about like maintaining a

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good healthy relationship communication

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yes talking we talk about everything I

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want to say that

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talk communication communication I would

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say communication I've asked a few

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people this question and they always say

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communication I think it's the hardest

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is it the talking or the listening

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that's the most important both both both

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because sometimes like women we always

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talk but I think men sometimes they

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don't

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listen I it's talking we we you know in

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early days we didn't communicate our

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feelings enough listening

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yes it's very obvious but not is it like

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trying to making an effort to understand

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don't hold on to anything that you're

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keeping inside if it's stressful like

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like people say that you have to pick

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your battle sometimes there are some

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things aren't worth bringing up but like

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most of the time just bring it up you'll

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feel better just do it in a calm way if

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there's any ever a moment where we think

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like what do we do here we always come

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back to just talk about like we we talk

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about it for an hour or something and

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then think oh my God I'm so happy we

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just talked about it and we're so open

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and yeah and also that the little things

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you know when you see on I don't know

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Instagram or Tik Tok these um

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relationship questions or those are the

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questions you ask your partner we just

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take those and go on a date night and

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drink a glass of or wine and then just

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ask each other and then yeah it's it's

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it just helps the communication helps

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the relationship yeah M compromise give

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and take yeah compromise that's a good

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one say communication but compromise

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yeah yeah compromise you got

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to see phone being respectful I think

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you know like sometimes you can kind of

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get like an instinct that something

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would be good for the other person and

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like kind of following that can be

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healthy but again we'll get back to you

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on

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now I I've I've been way more honest

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with you than I've ever been with

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somebody and no yeah I'm just out I'm

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just out of the sea so I can bar I can

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barely move my face um

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but um and I it feels yeah like much

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stronger for that reason CU like you

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break it down if you break something

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down you builds up a bit stronger I

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think I would say being honest with your

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partner but I think it starts with being

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honest with yourself um just about like

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maybe what you want or how you're

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feeling I think it's easy to um kind of

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tell ourselves something that's not

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necessarily true oh this will be fine

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later on but really if you're just

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really honest and and don't like play

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any games it makes things so much easier

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also to make a little surprises to your

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loved ones some small things his

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favorite thing to eat on breakfast or

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organize a surprise birthday part or

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some small things we'll we'll bring

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something up even if it might cause a

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bit of an argument we will bring

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something up and then discuss it um and

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that actually stops the arguments it

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stop sort of getting resentful and

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things like that and we sort of we just

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discuss everything if something annoying

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us the other ones done or we don't think

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we should be doing we'll we'll the a

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little bit that's the best way to do it

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rather than just let it see and simmer

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you can be two people who are incredibly

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different or very similar but it doesn't

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mean you're communicating the same way

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and just because you might not have the

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same communication style it doesn't mean

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that you can't kind of find a way to

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like Harmony between you MH I think it's

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very important

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to push through discomfort but also

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respect the other person to

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find a way where you can both be heard

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but both respect the other one as well

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yeah that is nice you said thank you so

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much thank you thank you for watching

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this week's episode please let us know

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in the comments below if you have an

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interesting story about how you met your

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partner and any advice you'd give for

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maintaining a healthy relationship and

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as always we'll see you on hopefully a

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nicer day

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