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is it fair to say that you two are best

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friends yes BFFs B yeah totally she

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always makes a situation that's awkward

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un awkward just by being her beautiful

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self I really like like the fact that

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you're so sensitive and and

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listen a very good listener and since

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then we are every day together siblings

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sisters interesting very interesting I

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know you're mine I didn't know I was

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yours

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it's on film there it's official anytime

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I need like anything he'll always be

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there that's a good one that's not

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always the case for a lot of people I'm

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very lucky always can count on just an

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honest opinion and also compliments as

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well does not wait a second as soon as

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you walk out the door you have amazing

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St and does wonders for like confidence

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and everything she's a inspirational

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person to me a that's so sweet Our Lives

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haven't always been easy since we've

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know each other

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and I think you know Bev is like a true

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friend that you can always count we

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don't cry

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Andrea welcome to a new episode of easy

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English so today we set out to find

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groups of friends in Brighton to ask

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them how they first met what connected

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them and what they considered to be the

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other person's best quality as a friend

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we also wanted to get their advice on

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what quality are needed in order to be a

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good friend and to find friends we hope

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you all

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enjoy would you mind telling me how you

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two first

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met um so we met at University Halls we

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were nextal neighbors well we met in uni

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first year we both did a foundation year

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in the same course we first met on New

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Year's Eve at a house party how did you

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two first meet and become friends um so

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we do Clinical Psychology we're both in

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Masters and so we met in class we met in

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St class yeah okay and what were you sat

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together or um originally no what

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connected you we had like a mutual

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friend in common and then he kind of

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brought us both together yeah I met G

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it's uh eight years ago eight years ago

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I have a I have one break when bed and

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breakfast

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in and one day she booked to one room at

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my home and that we are every day

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together we met in uh Secondary School

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mhm kind of around kind of around year

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nine okay we not actually had siblings

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so there you go and at what point would

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you say that you two are also friends

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are best friends yeah definitely and how

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at what point did you discover that and

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how did it come to you realize actually

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we're very when we older I was say we've

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over once we' had marriages divorces

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yeah we met on the the sort of first

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night we both moved in and it turns out

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we're we're both from Wales so we had

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that that like Bond are you close bying

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whales or no complete other opposite

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sides of the country but really we end

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up being two weles next door to each

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other I came to UNI with two other

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friends and my friend lived in the same

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building okay as um Bowie oh in

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accommodation yeah yeah okay yeah she

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lived on my floor and so I went hey and

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those two became friends yeah those two

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became friends

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we had a lot of common and we really

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both liked a band at the time um called

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the the that nobody really was into yeah

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there was a little bit obscure so it's

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very unusual to find somebody that

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actually lik them yeah so of course

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we absolutely bullied the guy that was

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doing the music put on some the the and

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then course me new was up dancing yeah

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and that was kind of it it what is it

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that like kind of connction you all then

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did you have similar interest or

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peculiarity peity we do a lot of gaming

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together yeah we play a lot of games

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just known each other forever really

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yeah what kind of connects you two

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together like interests or or cuz you're

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doing you're doing the same course you

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say we us to do we hated it so we Mutual

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hatred Mutual

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hatred there was a house two doors away

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from where Bev lived that had been for

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sale for a while they were like why

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don't you by that we lived in a

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different village and we look thought oh

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no it's a bit small and then we did end

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up buying it so we became neighbors as

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well and uh I already had children then

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you had yours so this was how many years

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ago 30 years ago 30 years ago yeah 30

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mind saying what the other person's best

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quality is in your eyes as a friend you

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know so I think Irene she's just a able

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to make conversations with anybody and

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everybody she always makes a situation

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that's awkward un awkward just by being

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her beautiful self we love going to

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restaurants together Ur to restaurants

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yeah amata makes me uh she made me

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discover the new restaurant in ra when

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when I

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arrived so we enjoy having uh having fun

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uh laughing together around the around

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meal

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uh outside and also inside because she's

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a very good cooker too so she often

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welcomes me at home to enjoy her the

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meals she prepare oh W and I like her

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character her character yeah yeah what

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would you say is the other person's best

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quality then as a

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friends my sister's I'm her best quality

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she sees good in everybody no try to

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she's she's a inspirational person to me

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a that's so sweet really like like the

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fact that you're so sensitive and and

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listen you're a very good listener very

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good at advice Morgan any time I need to

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call you he's always online that's good

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and anytime I need like anything he'll

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always be there that's a good one that's

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not always the case for a lot of people

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I'm very

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lucky I think you're very head strop

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yeah thank you you know what you like

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and you're kind of you're a very strong

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personality and that's such a good thing

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because you just kind of are so bright

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and light up for whatever and yeah shut

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up nicely said what would you say is the

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other person's best quality in a as a

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friend uh J can I start yeah U my worst

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quality is interrupting

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clearly uh Jane is one of the

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kindest most genuine lovely

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honest fantastic looking um brilliant

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fun far she never changes she's so sweet

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like it's just easy to have conversation

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with her like you don't feel any sort of

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judgment like just yeah she's just sweet

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I mean the first thing

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uh which amazed me when I met her the

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first time is her generosity she's uh

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somebody she's very generous she's crazy

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that's true because I can tell you a

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story when I arrived first time in her

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bed and breakfast the first day I was

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alone in my bedroom and and she said to

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me don't stay don't stay alone come to

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me there's a uh there was a match of

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football a European contest I don't

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remember which one and she said to me

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come at home you will have dinner with

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us and I met her husband and it was the

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I would say the beginning of our

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friendship AG other of friendship yeah

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that's great for my sister really I look

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up to her because she she very laidback

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about life she takes everything on the

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chin and she really enjoys the simple

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things in life so it reminds me that

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I've got to do that as well cuz I'm

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always like chasing this that and the

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other whereas actually you can have a

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really good quality of life just leaning

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into the little things that you find joy

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in and she's really good at that so it

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kind of inspires me and reminds me that

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I least be more like that Sam's always

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ready to do what drop everything to help

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he's always ready to just stop what he's

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doing and always act soice to yeah sort

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anyone out with the pair of views just

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people that I can be open with open with

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which is

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yeah good and so for both of you like

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I've known you for so long that we can

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just talk about anything and it doesn't

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matter there's no like hiding things

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really and you're just interesting to

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talk to Mel in particular you're just

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very interesting to talk to which is

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always nice very strange why I think for

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so honest always can count on just an

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honest opinion and also compliments as

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well does not wait a second soon as you

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walk out the door you look amazing and

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does wonders for like confidence and

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everything especially when I'm a bit

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like oh do I look good or do I like this

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outfit or I'm trying new makeup you

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always look good we can always count B

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like you look amazing today ah a that's

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that's really nice by the way be has

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just been um you know our lives haven't

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always been easy since we've known each

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other and I think you know Bev is like a

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true friend that you can always count on

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we don't under we don't see each other a

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lot no and when we do it's like that

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that's great so but yeah she's sort of a

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perfect person and look at her stop it

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how gorgeous is she what would you say

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is like maybe like a defining quality

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that you need to have in order to become

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a good friend or to find friends uh I

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think just being open and like just not

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having like a specific person in your

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brain to like want to be friends with

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yeah I think being non-judgmental

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wouldn't be for me like just how do you

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mean like not going out of like a stand

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or something yeah just not like like I

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don't know like so I listen to like

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heavy rock music and Irene doesn't like

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if I was the type of person that was

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like I only want to find friends that

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listen to rock music and like my kind of

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things and like I would probably have

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like two friends I think Honesty

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openness kind of yeah uh lack of not

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needing to hold a face having uh I think

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the key to any good friendship is being

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completely true to yourself with each

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other cuz that's the actual most

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magnetic thing about people in order to

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make friends just like striking up

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random conversations yeah right anyone's

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happy to talk to them if you just say hi

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well most people at least I think

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communication they say a lot in uh

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relationships I think it translates to

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friendships as well because there's

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loads of boundary settings and like just

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likes and not likes and everything and I

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just think communication with that

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person especially when friendships can

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end quite abruptly on things people

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don't just talk about just sit down and

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be like hey listen you did this to me

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didn't enjoy it can you not do it again

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and then it's like a great and also just

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communication just to build the

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friendship as well get to know the

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person I think on top of that also like

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empathy and just kind of putting

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yourself in other people's shoes you've

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got to be loyal you got to have each

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other's backs yeah um when you say loyal

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does that mean

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that you see no wrong in the other

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person that you stand by them whatever

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they do or you call them out for when

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they do I think we'd call each other we

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call each other out but we haven't had

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to really have we no I think we would

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and I think we're honest yeah with each

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other we're quite different with with

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our sort of political point of view oh

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God but we sure can choose but that

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doesn't have any bearing they say you

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should leave politics out of like family

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and friendships yeah EXA we know that

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there yeah that there's differences yeah

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and evil a difference really and I I

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think we would never really change that

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no uh but we know that you change the

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person probably yeah and that's another

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thing I like about Jane is Jane has

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convictions and stands by them which

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again is another

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admirable uh quality how is it that you

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can get to become friends with a

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relative because sometimes you can start

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off on the wrong foot right um I don't

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know I think it's that

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unconditional love you have even if you

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have like a best friend I still think

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that if they're that good a friend that

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there's no judgment in no matter what

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you've done in you know good or bad

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they'll just say Okay accept you no

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matter what you've done you can listen

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to someone and find some sort of

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anything you can talk about that you

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both are interested in then it's really

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easy to just like spend load time

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together as long as you find like that

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one thing that can originally connect

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you I think that's all you need thank

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