Starting a conversation at the park

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the time when I

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go to the park and I'm playing with my

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toddler and he ends up playing with

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another kid and I asked the parent oh do

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you come here often it's just a way to

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start a conversation okay now it's

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special notice time I want to let you

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know that not everyone is a great

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conversationalist you have to try your

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best and practice this so if you ask

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these questions to someone and they

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don't respond and you don't have an

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amazing conversation you know what maybe

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they're just not a good

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conversationalist maybe they haven't

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practiced this skill so I want you to be

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able to try your best and then it's

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really up to the other person it's their

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choice if the conversation continues you

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might be thinking Vanessa

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you seem like a good conversationalist

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what do you know about being worried

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about what to say or not knowing what to

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say let me tell you a little story

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well dan and I lived in South Korea for

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three years so that means that for three

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years every time that I had small talk

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or started a conversation with someone

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it was in Korean that means that I

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didn't practice small talk in English

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for three years when we moved back to

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the US I remember two situations one was

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when I was getting my driver's license

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because we had just moved back so I

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needed my driver's license again and the

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man at the desk said something to me

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like have you just moved here or how's

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your