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I remember in my first year living in

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Spain I went to the shop with a friend

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of mine a Spanish friend and place it to

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the man in the shop the Spanish

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equivalent of hello please could I have

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some tomatoes please and then my friend

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said to him give me bread and I thought

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wow that's a bit rude you see in certain

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circumstances in Spain maybe that's okay

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but in England you must never ask for

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things by saying give me give me bread

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so in this lesson I'm going to teach you

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different ways of asking for things

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without saying give me don't say give me

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in English don't say I want in English

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instead we say one of these beautiful

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polite expressions let's go

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speaking English

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we must not be direct we always just

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work our way around speech and questions

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instead of being direct because if you

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are direct in English you can easily

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appear rude and we really don't want to

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appear rude in most situations we don't

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tell people what we want we ask if it's

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possible to have it if you go to a bar

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you don't say give me a beer you don't

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say I want a beer you say can I have a

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beer can I have is it possible for me to

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have a beer that's what we're asking

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it's so indirect but we understand that

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when somebody asks the possibility of

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having a beer really they want a beer if

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you're in a restaurant with me and you

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say Greg give me the salt I won't be too

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happy although I might give you the salt

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I will probably like you a little bit

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less however if you say Greg could you

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give me the salt could you give me the

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salt hypothetically hypothetically

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because that's what could means could is

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hypothetical could could you pass me the

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salt when we're speaking English we

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always have to be so indirect so let's

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have a look at some expressions that we

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can use instead of give me or I want

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remember say them with a smile say them

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with a friendly voice and always say

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please at the end let's go could I have

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could I have you're in a restaurant and

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you ask the waiter could I have some

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water please could I have some water

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please

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this is a little bit more polite than

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can I have

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can I have some water please can I have

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some water please we could also say

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could you give me could you give me

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another knife please could you give me

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another knife please again instead of

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could we can use can can you give me

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another knife please can you give me

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another knife please

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another expression it's simply saying

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what you would like I would like I would

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like it's a much more polite way of

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saying I want so if we're asking for

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something we always use this expression

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I'd like I'd like the steak please I'd

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like I would like

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I'd like the steak please now saying

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please is so important when you're

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asking for things what we can do is we

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can put please as the first word of the

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sentence please can I have please can I

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have okay please can I have the pizza or

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please may I have please may I have is

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even more polite than please can I have

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please may I have the lasagna please may

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I have the lasagna as I said earlier

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instead of give we can use the word pass

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because give is a very direct word we

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can say pass it it's much softer it's

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much more gentle than give so instead of

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saying can you give me the salt please

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we say could you pass me the salt please

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could you pass me the salt please

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now a lot of these expressions I'm using

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examples in a restaurant where obviously

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you're asking for something and you have

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to be polite but this is also true when

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you're with family or friends

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we still don't want to be direct because

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it's still rude and we want to avoid

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being rude even with your parents if I

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said to my mother give me that pen she

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would be surprised at how rude I was

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being so what I would probably say is

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this plasma not pen will you pass me

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that pen

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will ya if we add willya at the end of

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an imperative at the end of an order

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like pass me the pen or give me the pen

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if we add William at the end it makes it

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less direct it makes it more polite and

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it's not very formal but it's a polite

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way of speaking with people like family

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or friends passed without pen will you

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with this intonation merinov a moaner

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pass me that pen will you pass me water

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will you take me to the train station

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will you give me a pound will you give

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me that last slice of pizza will ya

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it's almost direct but at the very end

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of the sentence we make it not direct

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don't use it in formal situations but

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it's a nice way of being polite and

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friendly with family and friends and

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instead of saying will ya at the end we

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could say would you would you would you

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would you okay when we're speaking

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naturally we don't say would you would

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you becomes would you pass me that

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newspaper would you give me a beer would

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you the next way is asking somebody if

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they want to do it instead of saying

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give me the report on Monday you could

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say do you want to give me the report on

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Monday this is a really really useful

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expression that to use at work you are

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giving your colleague an order but

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you're being very indirect about it so

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if your boss says to you do you want to

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call that client and I'll call this

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client they use this construction

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basically they're saying that you must

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do it but they're being very polite and

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very indirect in asking you finally we

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can use the expression

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do you mind do you mind hypothetically

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would you be sad if I asked you to give

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me a glass of water do you mind giving

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me a glass of water

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do you mind bringing me a glass of water

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do you mind passing me that water from

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there please do you mind

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and

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we say it quickly do you becomes JA Djem

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and juh mind do you mind passing the

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butter do you mind giving me the butter

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please okay one golden rule in English

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and that is the following when somebody

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gives you what you have asked for

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always always always say thank you

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