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do you have any

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regrets um it's a very big question

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um yes I think I do do you have any

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regrets of course well they're not

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really deep regrets cuz that's fine I

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wouldn't be where I am today if I didn't

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do what I did yeah I guess like there's

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one really big one and that is that my

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mom died before I got

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sober I suppose it was just I was young

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didn't I don't know I just felt like

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maybe it wasn't the right decision for

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me at the time is there a positive to be

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taken from you actually being a bit more

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careful as opposed to Carefree yeah I

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think I mean it meant that I had more

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security and I was able to buy a place

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to live live life and do what you can

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while you can yeah make the most of

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being young and not having

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responsibilities we'd like another

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adventure but we have to be careful what

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type of Adventure it

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is hi welcome to a new episode of easy

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English this week week we went down to

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the beach to hear people's stories of

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regret we were interested to know how

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people dealt with their perceived missed

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opportunities how their life may have

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looked if they've chosen a different

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path and how they understand their

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regret in perspective to their life

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today here we go what regrets or regrets

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do you have well I regret not having

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gone to University earlier uh my biggest

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regret is probably not traveling more

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when I was younger when I had the money

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to go and see the world I think I'd like

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to have um spent time working abroad

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that's one of the things that I didn't

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do I was too uh timid about I guess yes

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I think I would like to have moved my

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move from my house earlier than we're

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thinking of doing at the moment okay

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okay I think we should have should have

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moved 10 years ago I currently play

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tennis married to a tennis coach so um

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so kind of um ten is in the family

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anyway um but I never did any racket

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Sports when I was younger so I suppose

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the regrets would be maybe if I'd have

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take it out when as younger that I'd be

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able to kind of excel it more I guess I

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have a a regret in a in a way that I

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didn't take up a a creative job I wish I

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bought a house about 10 years ago cuz

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it's so much cheaper I would have liked

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to have explored my passion for art and

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illustration

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there's one really big one and that is

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that my mom died before I got

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sober uh okay where do I start with

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this sorry that may not have been what

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you were wanting but no it's a curve

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ball but it's it's nice that you shared

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that um where would you uh have liked to

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have gone 10 years ago if you could

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have I'd like to have gone to

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keonia really yes oh wow okay for any

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reason

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you're walking

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away no the reason is that we We own

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land in kefalonia so I really would have

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liked to have particularly gone to Spain

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and and spent some time actually living

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there properly and were you given that

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opportunity at some point I had a very

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secure job that paid quite well so you

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know it was

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about getting outside of my comfort zone

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and I decided not to get out of my

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comfort zone so uh yeah so that's it's

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kind of minor regret I did this to much

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traveling but you just sort of you end

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up sort of wasting it you're like what

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did I get I bought a new car bought a

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new bikes do you know what I mean top of

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the range sort of stuff and just went

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out with the lads and drinking and

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nights out and just sort of you Whit it

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away sounds horrible oh terrible

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terrible times yeah yeah but yeah it's

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it's one of those things but like I say

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the more you then can't afford it the

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more you're likely to spend the savings

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so but yeah I definitely like would have

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traveled more what benefits would you

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have had if you'd have gone early yeah I

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would have been able to forge a career

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in something that I really wanted to do

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okay and how so how much longer did you

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wait until you went I didn't go to

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university to do my ba until I was I

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didn't access course and then I I went

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to University at 49 something like that

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I was really good at Art when I was at

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school um and I didn't take that on

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further cuz I already had kind of a job

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lined up and so I'm not in a cre cretive

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job which is where I probably would like

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to be but then there's really much money

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in creative jobs it's like um interior

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design but there was an option for you

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at some point to have gone down yes

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there was yeah in what in what sense uh

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in the sense of uh choosing to do

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illustration and and choose that journey

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in life as in education as in drawing

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and illustrating kids books and okay

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more being more artistic and what made

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you go down the safer route let's say

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was it safer yeah it was money okay More

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Money More security and also working

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working with people which I enjoyed but

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um yeah so I'm currently looking at

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returning to illustrations oh really yes

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so it was about 11 years ago and that my

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mom died

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and I was drinking too much yeah and

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um and had been for you know her whole

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life and then 6 months after she died I

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got so So and I've been sober ever since

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and like so she never got to see me

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happy really is the thing

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because because I was stuck in the

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drinking and I was yeah so that's yeah

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imagine with this kind of subject a

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little bit more so than the other people

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interviewed there's like do do you ever

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play like a what if what if's game with

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yourself a little bit it's unfair to

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yourself to do it but what if I had and

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then would it have mattered much anyway

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do you think it would have changed much

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in your life well actually I kind of do

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so it's almost probably a bit the flip

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of what you were thinking so I do the so

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cuz I don't think that I don't think I

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would have got sober if my mom hadn't

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died when she did so it's more that kind

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of God what if she hadn't died then what

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might my crazy chaotic life have looked

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like and what might our crazy chaotic

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relationship have looked like only

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because I was crazy and chaotic was the

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relationship like that but

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like rather than the kind of what if she

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had continued to be alive and I was

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sober cuz I don't feel like there's

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a is it I don't feel like that was a

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possible

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scenario could you imagine how your life

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would have been had you have taken up a

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job in Spain would you still be there

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now you think I think so yeah I think

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it's I think uh temperamentally I I get

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on very well with the

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culture um and I I just I'm I'm very

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very very kind of uh

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passionate about about being in Spain

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it's a place I lovely I'd love to be and

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I'd like to spend more time there but

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perhaps not having lived there perhaps

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that's why I'm still Enchanted by it how

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could you have imagined your life being

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now had you done it 10 years ago it's

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very difficult to think about that

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because you have different experiences

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and

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um if it was the experience I think it

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would be I think we'd be more laidback

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more

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relaxed um

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warmer um our way of life would have

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changed totally right but could it have

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been a bit more stressful because you'd

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have to build something yes of course

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there's always a risk involved in in in

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that and it would have been stressful

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but yes but sometimes the risk and the

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stress you work round I can kind of

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Imagine maybe that there would be a very

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different person standing in front of me

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had you gone into the University at 18

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19 and oh yes because then I wouldn't

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would have gone around the world all

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right do both you see so so um very

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different

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person yes how could you imagine

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yourself now had you had found tennis

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and taken up the interior design I mean

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probably quite similar um I mean I play

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tennis now i' just be better at it you

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be beating your tennis coach exactly

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yeah i' actually not have so much

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frustration in the sport um and like

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interior design yeah maybe my path would

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have gone differently and who knows it's

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yeah who knows what would have happened

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if i' have gone to University or

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something and studied into a design

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probably my path would have gone

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completely differently but I'm really

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happy in my life now so it's not

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something that I've got kind of a

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massive regret on because I can still

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enjoy it as a as a passion you see it

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almost like your mom helped you in a way

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or that yeah as you said like without

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her dying maybe it wouldn't have

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triggered this absolutely yeah that

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definitely that that needed to happen in

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order for me to get saber and

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away I think my mom would be happy with

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that you know yeah cuz cuz she's a mom

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she'd be sad to miss out on it but I

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really like the moment at which the sun

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came out yeah it was frustrating for me

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cuz I had to change the camera but

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actually it was a nice moment it a nice

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significant moment it was everyone has

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them so is it a good is it a good thing

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seems to be an essential part of being a

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person to have

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one um

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I don't see the point of them really to

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be quite honest I've got little things

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that oh maybe I should have done that

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but I wouldn't have got to thinking that

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if I had done that so it all swings and

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roundabouts really

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okay what give to people who kind of

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either live in regret or have regrets

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coming from someone who doesn't really

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attention be more

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present and be grateful for what you

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have

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what advice would you give to people

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about having regrets and about you know

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you get you chosen more careful as

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opposed to Carefree life yeah it's a

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difficult one because it's it's

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difficult to advise people to be

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Reckless but I think sometimes if if

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your heart is in something then you

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should follow your heart maybe a bit

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more than your head and uh yeah I think

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that's probably the one thing I've I've

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learned is that I I perhaps I've been a

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little bit too cautious in some respects

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but you know I've been I've had a very

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good life I've been very very lucky in

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many ways so you know I don't the

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regrets are minor

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that was then this is now yeah I'm still

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standing I'm still walking I'm still

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breathing yeah so enjoy every day nice

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lovely you would always have regrets

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with anything if you allow them to to um

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take over your thought process but if

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you can try and say positive and happy

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with the choices that you make then

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those regrets won't kind of swallow you

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up you do more like materialistic stuff

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rather than yeah don't be materialistic

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I would

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making memories rather than yeah buying

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things bring some water it like you can

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always get El you can always rent you

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can always do that traveling memories

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family friends you can't make that up so

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that's what i' probably do just have

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enjoy yourself don't put too much stress

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in yourself it have fun yeah from the

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story you told me what advice would you

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then give to people about grab

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everything while you can

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really yeah

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lifee it's very difficult to say be

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carefree but you know when opportunities

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and things come up don't grab them don't

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spend too much time trying to analyze

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them okay you know if you think if it

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feels right do it I like that that's a

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nice motto I guess the last question I

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ask asking people is and this is you're

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a good person to come to this then

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because most people it's like

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materialistic things they have regrets

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about what what advice would you give to

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people when it comes to regrets because

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everyone has them so there must be some

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human thing where you it's it's natural

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to have them are they good should you

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have

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regrets so it's interesting cuz I don't

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think I would normally use the word

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regret okay how would you phrase

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it probably just something I'm sad about

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yeah something that I'm sad about so

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it's not I don't wish the past would

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change necessarily but just accept that

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it is as it is not try and block it out

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and pretend it didn't happen but also

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not not try and wish that it was

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different just kind of be like I guess

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acceptance is what it's that's your

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story yeah it's like yeah cuz that's and

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that's all those parts of the journey

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had to come together in order for this

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be to be the journey

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