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hi guys and welcome back to love English

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I'm Leila and today's lesson is going to

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help you be more polite the British way

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today we're going to look at idioms to

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help you become more polite and

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expressions idiomatic expressions that

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you might very well hear English native

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people using when they speak or of

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course in films television shows these

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idioms are incredibly common and are all

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connected with good manners and being

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polite so before we get started do make

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in the comments box below use it as a

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homework section practice these

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idiomatic expressions to make sure that

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you and people you know are more

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polite now we all know how important

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good manners and politeness is in the UK

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always using please and thank you is

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vital if you want to have good manners

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but on occasion we

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all uh sorry pardon my French idiom

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number one is very commonly used when

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English people swear now if you are

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French I hope you're not offended by

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this idiomatic expression it really is a

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joke it's apologizing for using a swear

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word bad language cursing if you will

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and basically it's suggesting that you

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didn't swear but you used a foreign word

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and France being the closest neighbor to

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England has become part of the joke so

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when you say a bad word when you swear

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by accident in front of someone that you

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shouldn't and you want to apologize we

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often very often say pardon my French or

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excuse my French so you realize that you

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shouldn't have used that language and

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you're apologizing for it in a joking

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kind of way so hopefully you guys don't

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swear and won't need to use this idiom

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but if you do in front of your teacher

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in front of someone's Parents try not to

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do it in front of children then you can

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say pardon my French excuse my French

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idiomatic expression number two and I

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would say that I hear this less

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frequently it's probably an older

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idiomatic expression and it is to Bow

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and scrape now in this case

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bowing like this scraping I suppose is

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showing that you are showing lots of

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respect and bowing very deeply because

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to scrape is is this action it's to

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touch the floor and and or an object and

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go right to the bottom it's very

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difficult to explain scrape it's it's

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going right to the bottom so when you're

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talking about bowing and scraping it

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means people are being excessively

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polite and Careful With Their Manners

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too much really that perhaps it doesn't

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seem genuine in or over the top more

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than it needs to be so for example when

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the boss arrived there was a lot of

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bowing and scraping people were

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excessively polite too much number three

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is a nice simple idiomatic expression to

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say something is the done thing an

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action is the done thing in this case

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we're saying it's the correct way to

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behave in a particular situation so for

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example it's the done thing to get the

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boss a coffee in the morning it's the

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done thing around here it's the polite

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way the correct way to be doing things

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in a certain situation for example at

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reception it's the done thing to greet

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people with a smile idiomatic expression

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number four rather than you saying and

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using bad language this is if somebody

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else speaks in a way that you are not

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happy with so for example if someone

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swears what you could say is mind your

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language you wouldn't say don't swear

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well you could but it's more common for

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us to use the idiom mind your language

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remember idiomatic expressions are

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sometimes a way of softening your

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language of not being too direct or or

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aggressive so mind your language could

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you mind your language please

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don't swear idiomatic expression number

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five I actually did a little bit of

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research here because the origins of

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this expression are mixed a lot of

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people are saying different things the

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expression is to mind your p's and q's

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so for example when you meet the queen

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you need to mind your p's and q's now p

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and Q I thought it stood for something

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however the research that I did

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suggested that it could be from the

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printing press when we initially first

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started using the printing press p's and

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q's could get confused uh because they

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look very similar when they're printed

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but if they're the wrong way around then

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they'll look like a p or vice versa or

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it could come from when children are

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being taught to write and again p and Q

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when you get it the wrong way around

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completely different meaning so to mind

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your p p's and q's refers to when you

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are asking somebody to be careful to pay

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attention to how they are behaving so it

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is often something that you might say to

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your children to younger Generations you

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need to mind your p's and q's in front

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of the teacher you need to mind your p's

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and q's when we visit their house it's

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advising them to be careful of how they

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behave rather than being too aggressive

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and strong behave be good you can say

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mind your p's and q's make sure that you

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behave in the correct way and you're

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polite number six this expression is if

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somebody is not polite if you think

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somebody has behaved in an unfair or

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upsetting way their behavior has upset

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somebody has even offended somebody you

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would say to them you've overstepped the

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mark let's imagine this is the line

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where behavior is acceptable and if you

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go over this line you've over stepped

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the mark so you have behaved in a way

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that is not acceptable that could be

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insulting or offensive to somebody and

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your behavior was not correct in the

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same way we could say that you crossed a

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line you crossed a line This Is A Little

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Bit Stronger I would say if you tell

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someone they've crossed a line their

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behavior really has affected you very

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negatively and you think they've been

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exceptionally rude or badly behaved so

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again this is a nice way of telling

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somebody you are not happy with their

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behavior you've overstepped the Mark or

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you've crossed a line so two examples to

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overstep the Mark or to cross the line

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the boss was really angry you

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overstepped the Mark when you told him

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he was wrong in front of everyone or

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stronger Rudder you really crossed a

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line when you told her she'd put on

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weight bad behavior offending somebody

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upsetting somebody because of what

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you've said or how you've behaved right

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so that was six and seven now eight very

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very similar but this is specifically

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referring to something you would have

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said that again was not correct in that

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situation it was not polite and probably

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quite rude to speak out of turn so so

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when someone speaks out of turn they

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usually speak at an inappropriate time

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an incorrect time and they say something

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tactless and inappropriate basically

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tactless means they don't consider how

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they are saying something so for example

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she spoke out of turn when she told her

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mother she didn't care she spoke out of

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turn when she told her mother she didn't

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care so it's often connected to timing

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and

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appropriateness how well you phrase

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something and tell somebody something

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you might even be afraid of speaking out

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of turn in the meeting I was afraid to

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speak out of turn I was afraid to say

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something in the wrong way at the wrong

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time in case I caused off fence okay

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idiomatic expression number nine is

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quite nice it is to put your foot in it

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so when you put your foot in it you say

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something by accident it's not

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intentional you don't mean to be rude

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but you say something that could upset

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or embarrass somebody so for example I

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asked her when the baby was due but she

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wasn't pregnant

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I really put my foot in it or I asked

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Sarah what her father's name was at the

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party but it wasn't her father it was

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her husband I really put my foot in it

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now number 10 is very simple and it is a

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great way to potentially tell someone

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off to reprimand them to tell them when

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their behavior is wrong and this goes

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for behavior and anything that might

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have been said so the original idiom is

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to be out of order you're out of order

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your behavior was out of order what you

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said was out of order in this case

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you're saying they were wrong they

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behaved in a very bad inappropriate

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wrong way or you can strengthen this by

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adding an intensifier you can say and

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this is a little bit slang bang out of

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order that was bang out of order that

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was completely wrong completely

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inappropriate and very very rude so

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those were 10 Expressions to correct not

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only your own behavior or language but

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also other peoples remember that

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idiomatic expressions are a great way to

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remain polite and to make sure other

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people are polite so why don't you try

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using some of those idiomatic

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expressions in the comments box below

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they are slightly more advanced so you

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do need to be careful and check that you

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are using them correctly and with the

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correct strength you don't want to be

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too strong depending on the

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situation right guys thank you very much

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for watching I hope this lesson was

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enjoyable and that you will mind your

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p's and q's