Asking for appreciation

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we

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ask for the things that we need um I

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know a gentleman married for 25 years

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who's longing to hear his wife say thank

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you for being the bread winner so I

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could stay home with the kids but won't

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ask I know a woman who's good at this

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she once a week meets with her husband

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says I would like you to thank me for

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all these things I did in the house and

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with the kids and he goes and he goes oh

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this is great this is great and praise

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really does have to be genuine but she

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takes responsibility for that and a

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friend of mine April who I've had since

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kindergarten she thanks her children for

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doing their chores and she said why

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wouldn't I thank it even though they're

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supposed to do it so the question is why

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was I blocking it why were other people

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blocking it why can I say I'll take my

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steak medium rare I need size six shoes

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but I won't say would you praise me this

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way and it's because I'm giving you

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critical data about me I'm telling you

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where I'm insecure I'm telling you where

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I need your help and I'm treating you my

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inner circle like you're the enemy

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because what can you do with that data

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you could neglect me you could abuse it

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or you could actually meet my need and I

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took my bike into the bike store I love

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this um same bike and they do something

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called TR